What I discovered talking to Loren and then talking with all my other female friends about this discovery was that we’re all just watching us each other and assuming every other woman has it better, when it comes to relationships. Like I literally thought “Only Loren…” while she was thinking “Only Kiki…” I don’t think that’s because we’re bad or unhappy or inherently competitive, but I think we’ve been given such unrealistic expectations of what “should” complete us, AND we’re encouraged to be competitive, that we can’t see our own gifts. The fact is I get mine, and I always have. I’ve had amazing relationships, incredible flings, crazy affairs. The friends I’m jealous of for stability are jealous of me for my adventures. And yet I STILL judge myself every day against these standards I don’t even believe. So what I’m trying to do is re-narrate all that bullshit! To give myself credit where it’s due and stop prioritizing things I don’t even consider a real priority. The fact is that writing an essay that pushes me makes me just as happy as meeting a new dude, so why do I downplay the one and not the other? Anyway, that was a lot to unload on you. lol Everything you’ve said just really resonated with me. We’re gonna figure it out someday, I swear. ;)